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I’ve been thinking recently of what makes me agitated and hurried, and what makes me relaxed, calm, and feeling like I’m making progress. The latter is brought about when I have focused energy without interruptions. It requires solitude and ‘unplugging’ if you will. Turning off the phone, hiding away somewhere. Spending devoted time towards the skill you want to develop is the only way to in fact, get better at this skill. This seems so simple, but I never realized how intentional you have to be about setting up a distraction free life.
Most of us spend way too much time responding to other people. Yes, some of it is important, but largely, it’s not urgent. I try to ask myself every time something that has the illusion of being pressing comes up, ‘what will happen if I delay or don’t do it at all’. It seems cruel, but it’s not. It’s taking the time to develop yourself and your skill uninterrupted, which in the long run, will be the greatest asset to others. After asking yourself this question, you’ll find a lot of the urgencies just simply disappear. Some do require immediate attention (due to bad planning, but that’s a story for a different time), some require your attention at a later time chunk, but a lot just disappear.
I thought I’d leave off on some tips that I’m trying to implement in my own life, because nothing is worse than feeling unaccomplished and having nothing to show for your time.
- time chunks- sounds crazy, but setting aside an hour a night for texting people back/facebook/instagram, etc. This requires a tremendous amount of willpower and being aware of when you are mindlessly browsing or intentionally distracting yourself from the >real work<.
- setting boundaries- telling people in your life what to expect from you and when. I know it’s super important to me to not hurt people’s feelings, letting them know that it’s not from lack of caring but rather so you can put more focused and undistracted attention into the time you do have together. I think they would appreciate that. An example of this would be telling friends you aren’t available till after 8pm on weekdays.
- location changes- going to a new location to reinforce the time chunk you set. For instance, if you have two hours at a cafe to get a blog post online, then the setting will reinforce the time constraint. I find it difficult to set time constraints having a the whole day at home.
I would love to hear any of your tips below because I badly need to get better at this. I’m hoping that by practicing this new ritual, it becomes easier to implement. Becoming a manager of your own time is the hardest when you are working solo/developing skills on your own.
All the love,